The power of networking led to Julie Smith + I being introduced a few years ago. Despite the fact we occupy similar spaces as solopreneurs in consulting + coaching, our mindful decision to put time + energy into a friendship rather than deferring to human nature’s pull of viewing each other as competition has proven to be a blessing! We often find ourselves at the same business events + are becoming known for continuing discussions afterwards in the parking lot. We pose thought-provoking questions, present challenges, step into authentic emotions + keep every aspect of our friendship real.
Being smarter with emotions is a choice. Yet, putting ourselves in a position to pause momentarily at that specific point in time when the proverbial fork in the road reveals itself is daunting. I’m fascinated by how easy it is for humans (myself included) to become so fixated on achieving an outcome that we lose sight of the process. Yet, it’s the process - because of the skills learned, experience gained + insights discovered - that transforms us. Processes, rather than outcomes, enable us to become better versions of ourselves.
The new year is well underway and I’m overwhelmed with curiosity. Observing humans in a variety of settings leads me to wonder how many are bold, courageous + uncomfortable enough to invite growth into their space. How many identify with the freedom associated with change? How many are willing to ‘step in’ to the emotions associated with discomfort + the opportunities created as a result?
In my November post, I introduced the power of choice - the one gift our Creator has given us that influences the quality of our lives. It reminds us that choices control our lives; conditions don’t. I also committed to sharing a real life example of what the 3-step process - ‘show up’, ‘step in’ +‘commit’ - to do hard thing looks like in a business context. Here’s a humbling example of what transpires when humans choose to embrace the first step to ‘show up’.
The one gift our Creator has given us that has the power to control the quality of our lives. And while we can’t choose what happens to us or around us, we can choose our response. Choices control our lives; conditions don’t.
My path toward the realization that every single thing in life boils down to a choice arrived via numerous teaching moments with my most trusted learning partners - my horses. Deciphering each experience into applicable life lessons and client-worthy material was aided by a horse trainer who embraces the power of choice.
One particular experience profoundly impacted the quality of the partnership I’m seeking with one of my horses. It also taught me how to alter outcomes with humans. The overarching result: I learned to do hard things. And, it was my willingness to be vulnerable, confident + open to risk that made possibilities reality.
Facilitating horse-guided coaching sessions for clients is always a privilege. I get to share space with the majestic creatures God places in my life to grow, strengthen + empower other humans. As a fresh air geek, I get my fill of Mother Nature and, most importantly, I observe the transformation of people as they acclimate to the serene, quiet + safe rural landscape removed from their day-to-day labels + existence.